“Well you get it, right? I mean, it would suck to be
a boy named Sue.”
“Because it’s a girl’s name.”
“Right.”
“But why did that help him?”
“Because it made him tough, he had to fight people who
teased him.” I watched Eleanor’s face for a flash of understanding. There was nothing.
“But why did he need to be tough?”
“Because the world is tough, because life is tough.
His dad wanted his son to be tough and he knew he wouldn’t be around to help
him get tough.”
I heard my own words and how they must sound to my
nine-year-old. I was learning about her perspective at the same time I was
trying to teach. She had no context. Maybe I should retract and start over, I
didn’t want her to think people get tough or benefit for being bullied and
teased.
She interrupted me before I could detour to explain
that a real-life Sue may indeed have grown into a tough-looking man, but that beneath
the muscles and tattoos he may not be tough in the ways that matter, in strength-of-character,
in the strength to be vulnerable. “But the world’s not tough.” She said.
“Okay, no—I mean yes, it sure can be, you’ll see. But
the point is that the song is meant to be a funny story, an oversimplification using
ideas from another place and time.”
“Like the Old West?”
“Exactly.”
“It was written by Shel Silverstein.” Windy added.
She was tucked in the corner with her iPad, now offering color commentary from
her Offline Wiki app.
“Shel Silverstein wrote ‘A Boy Named Sue’?” I knew
this would pique Eleanor’s interest.
“Can we hear it again?” Eleanor asked.
And we did hear it again, that song and the entire At San Quentin album.
Until she was eventually distracted, we’d talked
about how Cash’s practiced dialogue between songs appealed to his uniquely
homogeneous audience, about how politicians and others pander, about Cash’s prison
tour, and about June Carter Cash and the Carter Family.
***The biggest question from folks contemplating cruising is How much does it cost?
I’ve addressed that question here before: Cruising
doesn’t cost anything in particular, there is no price tag on the lifestyle. I
can tell you what we spend, but that information will only inform your own
estimation.
But I haven’t addressed the biggest question for families contemplating cruising. They
all want to know How will schooling
happen?
Here is the answer: It won’t, there is no school in
this lifestyle. I can tell you how our kids are learning, but that information
will appeal only to like-minded parents.
In the past couple years, we’ve seen almost as many
approaches to learning aboard as the number of cruising families we’ve met. I have
no basis for qualitatively comparing or assessing them. Who can? All of the approaches
look very different from a traditional, institutionalized education model, and
that’s a point worth emphasizing.
Our steady travel prohibits our kids from regularly
attending school. They are denied access to many rich aspects of that
experience: the long-term teacher relationships, the sports teams, the clubs, the
labs, the other students and the classroom interplay, and the millions of
incidentals that are a product of that environment.
We’re okay with that. You have to be if you plan to
do this long-term.
Currently, our approach to education is little more
than active, involved parenting. It’s the same thing millions of folks do every
evening when the whole family is together, we just do it at all hours—and in
some pretty interesting environments. At most, the girls spend 10-20 minutes a
day on formal “schoolwork,” stuff like math apps on the iPad or handwriting
workbooks. The bulk of their education comes from their reading, their pursuing
their interests in their unique, ever-changing world, and many, many seemingly
insignificant—sometimes trivial—engagements with us, like the above.
But we’re done with San Quentin and the Man In Black.
I think that after breakfast tomorrow, while Frances clears the table and Eleanor
does the dishes, we’re all gonna take a loud ride on the Crazy Train with Ozzy
and see where that takes us. All aboard girls…ha, ha, ha, ha.
--MR
Eleanor watching these young grizzlies forage. They stayed right in front of us for nearly two hours. |
The girls walking towards the base of this glacier. Their heads aren't down because they're angry or bored, they're watching the ground to avoid bird eggs they'd read would be in this landscape. |
This is awesome!
ReplyDeleteLove your perspective on this! I wish I could have done this with my kids!
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